Also, a headache is a pathology problem. Our society tends to view pregnancy the same way, which it is not. If you are pregnant, it means that sex worked the way it is supposed to. If you have a headache, then something is wrong.The problem that needs to be fixed is the idea that pregnancy is a disease or a condition when, in fact, it is the total opposite of that.
And for tattoos and hair dye,the Church has no moral objection to these things, but it does call us to remember that God loves us as we are. He isn’t hung up on what we look like.
Ultimately, these things do not interfere with life. They are quite different from killing an unborn child and therefore really cannot be compared to it in that way.
I would also like to point you to these resources:
Embyro; A Defense of Human Life by Robert George
Sex au Naturel by Patrick Coffin
Ok, so barrier methods. If you engage in sex and do anything before, during or after to prevent pregnancy, we are opposed because we place such value on the creation of life and the opportunity for a person to be born and make an impact on our world.
Even if you’re not Catholic and don’t buy that answer, there is reason to avoid barrier methods. These things also reduce sex to an act for pleasure only; but, our biology says it is something different. When we engage in sex, we become one biological reproducing organism. That makes sex a twofold process: unity of spouses and generation of new life.
Using sex for enjoyment takes away one major purpose of the act. In doing so, it also reduces the participants to an object for use. While we may not feel we are being used by our spouses, and they more than likely are not doing so, it creates a feeling that sex is purely for pleasure, and with pleasure comes boredom. Boredom forces people to constantly think of new ways to create that pleasure, and often leads to dissatisfaction.
Think of it this way (and this is not my wisdom, but I wish it was): There is a huge disparity between a one night stand and sex with a person who loves you. There is just as big of a disparity between sex with someone who loves you and sex that is open to life. Many people just are not aware of how great it really can be.
Finally, every act says something. A handshake says, “welcome”, a kiss shows affection. Sex says I’m all yours. With contraception, you are saying, “I am partially yours.”
And, check this book out: My Peace I Give You by Dawn Eden
8. What about women who are physically unable to bear children? What are your words telling them?
This is good. I like this question. I want to be more specific in my argument that our purpose in life is to create life. Yes. As humans, our biggest purpose is to create life in order to create love. But, creating life does not necessarily mean birthing it. A woman who is in the unfortunate situation of not being able to bear children may be called to create life in a different way. It may be nurturing through adoption or fighting other “life” battles such as the death penalty, hunger or the like.
Now, it may seem that I am backpedaling here. You may think, well, if it is ok for a woman who is infertile to not have children and create life in other ways, why can a fertile woman not choose to do the same? I guess to that I have to refer you again to question #7. It’s what Catholics believe, which is what this dialogue is about anyway, right?
Also, just because a woman is infertile (or a person cannot find someone to marry and so on), does not decrease her value or her worth to God or our society. It is the situation she is in, and God calls her to other things.
9. It doesn’t really seem fair to claim that feminism’s main goal should be to promote baby making over all of the many other wonderful and blessed gifts that women also have to offer. Can’t we have a happy marriage of the two without putting one above the others?
Ah. Another awesome question! The answer is YES! NFP is that happy marriage. You are staying open to the idea of life while still having a say in your own fertility and number of children. The best of both worlds all wrapped up in one!
I encourage you to read Pope John Paul II’s letter to women discussing their vocation and dignity. You can read it here.
Also, check out the Endow Bible Study on the topic.
10. Would God really want [people] to have children that they are unable to provide for, could be sold as child soldiers, or subjected to who knows what other catastrophes?
No. And God doesn’t ask that we do. That is why we are given the freedom to discern whether a child is right for us in any given life situation. And, if the situation is right, we are called to have them. Now, as far as those horrific situations, being pro-life isn’t just about saving the unborn. It is also about preventing and fighting these types of anti-life scenarios. So, as I said in #3, it isn’t about choosing one over the other. We protect the unborn, but are also called to protect those that are already here.
While there are millions of caveats and special circumstances that come to play on the issue of fertility, Catholics feel that no matter any of these things, our mission is to protect life, from the womb to the tomb.
With all of that being said, we realize that there are as many world views as their are people on the planet. In our society, these varying views are hailed; however, Catholics often seem to be the point of ridicule and discrimination. We understand that many people do not share our beliefs, but we do wish that we would be extended the same courtesies that other groups are given. Catholics have not ever tried to force their beliefs on anyone. We can’t even if we wanted to. Separation of Church and state, remember? But, we will stand up for what we believe in, and we will do so loudly when our freedom to have a different world view is attacked.
Finally, whether you agree or disagree with us, you are always welcome to come here and ask questions and read my blog! I promise the posts aren’t always this heavy. In fact, just go and read this one right now.