My mom and I were recently talking about this topic, and she said how hard it is for her to do this because she loves my brother and me so much. She said she has a hard time believing she loves God more than us. Now that I am a mom, I totally get that. I have been thinking about it a lot lately, and I brought the question to a bunch of Catholic ladies who I trust very much. Here is what they and I had to say:
I have a hard question (at least for me): So, we are supposed to love our Lord above all else, even our own children. I struggle with this (not the concept, just the practice). I love my kids as much as I know you all love yours…which needless to say is a whole lot. I always think that I would do anything and everything for their well-being. How can I put into practice/show the Lord that he is number one in my life? What does that look like? The love I FEEL for my kids is much greater, and I know it shouldn’t be that way. Anybody else struggle with this?
I may be answering my own question, but by taking care of the Lord’s gifts (our children) to us, are we showing our love for him? By dying to ourselves so that they may prosper a way of doing this? What else might there be?
I’ve actually brought this up in confession – not for kids, because obviously – but with my husband. I struggle with feeling like I love my husband more than I love God, when I know it should be the other way around. The priest told me that living my Vocation & loving my husband WAS loving God, that I glorified God by loving my husband. I’m still conscious of it, but I don’t worry so much about it. I know I DO love God more, because without Him there’d be no Adam – and no me – but I can show my live for God by loving my husband.
I would say, in my albeit limited experience, that by bringing your kids up in the faith even when it’s not easy (like taking them to Mass) would mean you love God over all. It’s the way you live your life as a whole.