How I Read a Fiction Book

What does it say about me that I am fascinated with how people do the mundane? Takes one to be fascinated by one? Or something.

Like, what steps do you take to clean your bathroom? What does your daily hair routine look like? How do you organize your pantry? Or, lucky you, the topic de jour: how do you read a fiction book?

Assuming you are here because you are exactly.just.like.me, have I got a treat for you. I’m going to share how I read a fiction book. Ta-daaa.

How I Read a Fiction Book

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Pre-Reading: First I check out the front and back cover. I familiarize myself with these things to form a schema (knowledge base) around the book. Brandon Vogt goes into a lot of detail in his video course calling this “x-raying a book”, and he has 8 easy steps to learn how to do this. 

Read Slowly: At first. The first 15-25% of the book normally. I spend time flipping back often, reminding myself of characters and plot points. I like to read slowly to get every detail straight in my head.

Plow Point: You know, the point where you understand the writer’s style, the language and the plot enough that you can just race to the end? You can recognize and skim over small details that you know aren’t imperative. This method fails me when I am reading a book that is style/character based: a book where the language and descriptions are the main focus as opposed to plot based books. (Think What Alice Forgot vs. P&P) I love plot based books because I like to read fast and furiously. I am always wanting to get into the next book.

Reflect: Ha. I don’t really have time to do this. But, if I did, I would sit with my thoughts, ask myself questions about the book, think about what I learned or how the book changed the way I think about life. Maybe blog about it. As it is, I can’t go to the bathroom on my own, so you can take this step or leave it.

Fave Plot Based Books of Late

The Expats

Lizzie & Jane

The Rosie Project

What Alice Forgot

Stardust

As a (super!short!lived!) former English teacher, I know that these tips are things all good readers should know how to do. They are things that come naturally to me (toot toot!) and things I spent hours trying to teach my students. If you find yourself questioning HOW to read a book – what is the best way? – then you can learn these things in Brandon’s course that I mentioned above.

How do YOU read a fiction book? What are your favorite titles right now?

 

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#5Faves: Netflix To-Dos

 

Netflix gave me a streaming device and asked for my thoughts in return. Here they be. All mine. All truth.

What do you do when you have lots to do? You just ignore that ish and watch Netflix. And these babies are on my to-do list. Let me know if you’ve seen them/if I should invest the six solid minutes I get each day when my house isn’t a legit whine-ery.

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Heart of Dixie: I like shows that are super sugary. I can’t just sit and watch TV; I have to be doing something else as well. I feel like I might be able to multi-task while watching this due to the sucrose. Maybe?

 

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The Cobbler: Did I just put an Adam Sandler movie on My List? Yes. It’s not that I don’t like him. It’s just all about the fact that I am not in middle school anymore. So, color me shocked when this looked tempting.

 

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Miss Fisher’s Murder Mysteries: Is this going to be scary? I am big baby, and Pretty Little Liars can only be watched when Mike is not not not on a work trip. But this is so tempting. I love mystery and red lipstick.

 

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The Paradise: I’ve heard some good stuff about this one. I love how beautiful the sets and cinematography look. That’s why I’m a sucker for Baz Luhrmann and Wes Anderson stuff.

 

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Welcome to Me: Love me some Kristen Wiig – particularly Penelope (tell me you love her the most too). So, I think I would like this. Tell me if you’ve seen it.

 

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10 Tips for When Your Spouse Has an Anxiety Disorder

Ha. I did NOT write this post. I would call myself an expert on coping with anxiety, but being a spouse of someone with a disorder? That is ALL Mike. And he’s rill good at it too. So, he is here today with 10 Tips for When Your Spouse Has an Anxiety Disorder. He wrote it from the perspective of a husband, but his thoughts and advice are totally legit for anyone who cares for someone with anxiety. Also, he’s an engineer. 

10 Tips for When Your Spouse Has an Anxiety Disorder

You want to help your spouse and offer anxiety relief, but you just don’t know how. And, honestly, you’re getting frustrated. Help your sig-o along with your marriage by following these 10 tips. Written by a husband whose wife deals with a severe panic and anxiety disorder. So helpful and practical. This is romance.

Introductory Argument

Jenna and I recently had an argument. The point of the argument is lost to me, but I remember it consisted of me hitting a breaking point over an expectation difference that was derived from something Jenna was worried about. Like any reasonable person, I responded by entering say-mean-things-mode, which quickly escalated into a full blown altercation. Don’t worry though, we worked it out and ended with these highly encouraging words for each other:

Mike: I will try to be less mean when I think you’re being crazy

Jenna: I’ll try to remember you’re a human

Surprisingly, neither of those statements contains even an ounce of sarcasm. The root cause of the escalation was that I was unable to support Jenna during a moment of anxiety, and Jenna was unable to support me when I (very poorly) expressed some emotion. This is why we suck.

Here is another pointed exchange that further highlights some fundamental differences in our thought processes:

Jenna: I am so worried about norovirus because there is nothing I can do about it…

Mike: …which is why you shouldn’t worry about it

Jenna: we see things differently.

Anyway, the reason that I bring these conversations up is because they are both related to something that affects our marriage on a daily basis: anxiety.

Really Boring Background Context

This is my 8th year of being with Jenna. That’s almost 30% of my life. If I ever want to achieve my goal of spending over 80% of my life in love with Jenna, I need to do two things:

  1. Invest in our relationship
  2. Drink three High Life’s per day

The second thing is very straightforward, so I’ll focus my thoughts on the first. I need to invest in my relationship with my wife. That investment has many different facets such as spending time together, praying for each other, spending time away from each other, understanding each other, and hundreds of other things. One of the most critical aspects of this investment is the understanding and the subsequent actions that should align to said understanding.

My wife suffers from an anxiety disorder, and I need to understand it so that I can support her. Throughout her life, she has weathered many different waves of high and low anxiety. Sometimes it manifests as paralyzing panic attacks. Other times it’s just a subtle tone that I pick up in her voice. Sometimes it’s imperceptible to me, but I know she still feels it on some level. A lot of this anxiety can be assigned to identifiable triggers, but not all of it. It’s difficult to predict. It is self-perpetuating. It has an absurd stigma associated with it. Some waves come weekly. Other waves come monthly or yearly. Some waves barely rock the boat. Other waves capsize us and leave us clinging on to a shred of wood gasping for air and grasping for life. Anxiety is not fun for anyone involved. Despite all that, Jenna does a fantastic job of managing her anxiety. She has sought help from every possible avenue, and made huge strides in combating this affliction. I could not be more proud of her for that. I need to do my part to understand Jenna’s anxiety so that I can react appropriately to it.

Sometimes I’m the Worst Person Ever

Let’s talk about how to react inappropriately to anxiety. My frequent crier card is loaded with thousands of points that I continue to rack up when I respond to Jenna’s anxiety poorly.

In any marriage, there will be tiffs, problems, arguments and major crises. Anxiety can not only increase the frequency of those issues, but it also adds a layer of complexity to each of them.

Sometimes, instead of being courageous and approaching these issues with ninja-like tact, I take the lazy road and shut down. I react by shutting off my emotions as opposed to dealing with them. It’s like I’m trying to do the right thing by not exploding with frustration, but I’m doing it without total buy-in. Instead of being happily empathetic, I may just bite my tongue and silently add a weight to the wrong side of the resentment scale. As that scale builds up and starts to become lopsided, my patience evaporates. My kindness disappears. My understanding and forgiveness fade to the level of Ebenezer Scrooge.

I know you’re thinking I’m a model husband at this point, but this isn’t even the best part. The best (read: worst) part is when I finally hit the breaking point and spew all this crap out like Mother Nature when she’s feeling particularly destructive. This is the wrong way to handle anxiety. The great hilarity of an excessively negative emotional response to someone else’s anxiety is that it makes me the same as that person. I can’t handle your emotions so I’m going to react with even more ridiculous emotions. This reaction and any others like it are just plain selfish. Since selfish is the opposite of selfless and selfless is the same as love, that makes my selfish reaction the opposite of love (transitive property, baby). If I truly love my wife, I will not only understand her feelings, but I will feel, think and act selflessly towards her every day.

It’s Not a Tumor! (but it is a disease)

So, I’m not a doctor, but I do know that anxiety is a disease that affects people both mentally and physically. I have witnessed its work enough to see that it is not simply a lack of effort on an individual’s part. The unfortunate thing about anxiety is that its observable symptoms overlap with many actions that are also related to poor behavior. If someone has cancer, you’re going to cut them all kinds of slack (as you should!!!) and you’re going to sacrifice a lot to make sure you care for them. One of my biggest struggles with anxiety is in trying to find the line where I need to hold my wife accountable for stuff vs. sympathizing with her plight and pouring on the extra care. Part of what makes our marriage successful is that we have high standards for each other. Jenna helps me when I drift astray, and I do the same for her. It’s just a little more complicated when anxiety is part of that equation. When I put a lot of thought into how I should act in these situations, my brain is continually drawn towards a couple simple conclusions:

  • Disease or no, it’s never my place to judge my wife. She could write an entire book about my ACTUAL shortcomings that aren’t linked to any disease other than my ineptitude.
  • All I need to do is love my wife by striving to selflessly care for her every moment.

These conclusions remind me that while everyone does need a kick in the pants sometimes, if I’m unsure about how to react to something I should err on the side of empathy.

In Sickness and In Health

I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I wonder if people would ever get married if they truly understood that promise. When you’re standing on the altar, the last thing from your mind is the absolute guarantee that you and your wife will have to endure absolutely insane challenges together. During those challenges you tend to think “well THIS is not what I signed up for” or “challenges? Sure, but that certainly doesn’t apply to a situation of this magnitude!” Those colossal issues are exactly what the vow is about. It’s amazing how the words “I DO” flow out so quickly and easily, and with them we seal the entirety of our future life on a sentence that takes six seconds to speak and two seconds to forget. I like to think back on that moment in my life and remember that however difficult a situation is, I most definitely signed up for that and more. You can choose to see big challenges as a way to grow closer to your wife, or as a way to drive you apart.

I mentioned earlier that we need to recognize anxiety as a disease and care for individuals who suffer from it. That is still true, and it is still helpful for me to remind my weak self of that, but I actually believe that there is a deeper, more beautiful, and more profoundly logical way to look at it.

Several years ago I learned an invaluable lesson from my father-in-law. It was during the time when his wife was suffering from cancer. The younger me struggled to see how he could support someone through one of the most frightening and demanding situations in life with such compassion, with such consistency, and with such a positive attitude. Dan’s approach was really quite simple. He told me that he would be perfectly happy to serve his wife every day like this until the day he died if he had to because this was the work that God had given him. His mission was directly in front of him and he knew what to do. It was pure selflessness and it was amazing.

That leads me to the deeper thought, which is tied to the root of Christianity. God sent a piece of himself, his own son, to serve a broken and thankless human race. In doing so he taught us how to love, and freed us from the drudge of selfishness and hate. Each of us has trials in our lives. Our primary mission is to conquer those trials with love every single day. That’s pretty much it.

Finally! A List of Ten Reasonable Suggestions

It was a struggle for me to not make this whole dissertation one long bulleted list (if you’re wondering, it at least started as one). Here’s a quick summary of things that have worked for me in dealing with my wife’s anxiety:

  1. Most anxiety swirls around the lack of hope and confidence. Focus on building hope and growing confidence in your wife. I can’t stress this one enough.
  2. Write down a list of what helps your wife get through an anxious situation. Constantly remind her of this helpful process when she needs it most.
  3. Put problems into perspective. If something minor is causing the anxiety, talk through the details in a real context to prove that everything is going to be OK.
  4. Track major improvements and examples of overcoming anxiety. Pay attention to when your wife actually feels good, and recognize those moments emphatically.
  5. Know when to push and when to comfort. This is so tricky to do but you get better at it with time.
  6. Lighten the mood. Stay positive. Crack some jokes.
  7. Help identify anxiety triggers, and help minimize them once you know what they are.
  8. Be honest about your own feelings with your wife. You have to do this nicely, but it helps to prevent resentment from building up.
  9. Join a prayer group. Having a wife with anxiety can take a toll on you. My men’s group bolsters my faith, which in turn gives me the strength to support her.
  10. Be openminded about all kinds of treatments. It’s a difficult choice to take medication or seek therapy for anxiety, but it might be the right choice. Forget about the stigma and focus on what’s best for your wife.

For my parting thought, I’ll leave you with some words from Confucius: a sword tempers under heat and pressure. A noodle softens and becomes inedible mush. Which will you choose to be, a magnificent weapon or stupid mush?

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#5Faves Things About BIS

 

Blessed Is She started almost one year ago. Time to love on it a little more than I already do.

What is Blessed Is She?

“Blessed is She is about a deep spiritual honesty, transparency and authenticity; remaining true to the Magisterium throughout. We want to reflect upon the lives of the many women that contribute to this site while also allowing the contributor’s voice to share peeks of individuality to show that we understand from experience, the collective of women who could be reading our work. Keep in mind all that they could be facing and focus in on how we can best help them to find their way to prayer each day. Daily grace for pondering hearts.” {from our style guide} Check it meow-t.

Blessed Is She is a daily devotional community of women online and in person. Find your local Jesus lovers and start savoring His Word with them today. | christian | catholic | Bible | community | sisterhood | inspiration

 

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The Sisterhood: Not only is this a daily readings and devotions site for women, it’s a community. I’m talking super Sister Sledge. If you are part of BIS, you are part of a greater group of women who have.your.back. Find your regional group on Facebook, and start attending brunches and other fancy yet laid back events.

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The Devotions: So, each day I read a little bit of The Word, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t speed read down to the bottom to get into the devotions. The authors write from the heart, pouring out some truth. These women relate The Word to our own lives – whether you’re a mom, a wife, in the workplace, at home or in school. Or maybe you’re just a hobo for Christ.

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The Gear: I’m a big fat one for pretty thangs. And BIS is all about the gorg. Not suprisingly, they have the cutest shirts, journals, prints et-set-er-uh. I wear the classic tank so much that I would be embarrassed if I actually cared about that ish. Shop here.

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The Images: I told you, BIS is all about what is beautiful. People are drawn to what is pleasing to the eye, no? So, what better way to bring women closer to the gift of Christ than to wrap it up in some pretty packaging. The Gram is full of beautiful shots that in which you can imagine yourself.

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The Giveaways: And, of course, to celebrate a year, BIS is giving away tons of pretty goodies. Enter the Rafflecopter below. Best of luck, dears.

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The Dream of the 90s is Alive in Detroit

This post is sponsored by Rack Room Shoes, but all of the words and pictures and dramatics are mine.
This past weekend, we triple dipped.

Saturday was the Feast of the Assumption and a Baptism; Sunday was Mass. Guess which family hit up the Saturday vigil. Boom goes the dynamite.

But fall before and after the pride situation here. Trust me. I said that correctly.

Before heading to Mass, Sam be like, “Mmmm rancid milk from Wednesday. Glad I stashed this back here. Suh-lurps.”

We made it through relatively unscathed, but you can imagine the fear in my eyes when I KNEW I’d be dealing with the milky aftermath while Mike was on a business trip this week. Which fine. I didn’t have to deal (thank you, Bragg and DigestZen). But, the thought, you know. It exhausted me.

In order to avoid any further insanity, I’ve been taking the kids on daily, nightly, hourly walks downtown to tire.them.out. As well as their shoes.

Imagine my deeeelight when Rack Room Shoes offered to send the kidlets (and even zee husband) a new pair of kicks. They’ve got all of the brands you know and some you want to discover. My fam went sporty.

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“Sam, stand up tall so I can see your outfit.”

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“A motorcycle. A daddy like dat.”

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Sam’s Choice: Skechers Drifters

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easy, breezy posing

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more natural stances

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Ellen’s Choice: Sweet Steps

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Mike’s Choice: Converse Street Mid Lea

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not pictured: camera lady extraordinaire laying flat in minivan trying to capture entire massive husband in shot

Also, this is the first time I actually remember wearing a decade’s fashion that is now back in style. But save yourself from the chunky black oxford heels, and go here instead.

Give Back

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And Rack Room is matching your donations, dollar for dollar, up to $300,000. Through this annual fundraiser, they have donated over $1 million and ensured that kids don’t miss school because they can’t afford shoes.

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I’m guessing your kids are heading back to hit the pencils soon, right? Can I get an amen? Unless you homeschool. In which case, teach me your ways. Anyway, they’re going to need shoes. So it goes, every year.

Take advantage of Rack Room’s everyday BOGO 50% off deal. And join the Rack Room Rewards program to get simple, instant savings on shoes for the fam. Some of the member’s only perks include exclusive discounts, coupons, and $15 in rewards for every $200 spent.

 

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7QT: order Chinese at watch Chuggington on the floor

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If you could plan a small, low key event for local Catholic women, what would you want to do? This weekend we did a brunch. We were also thinking things like picnics, wine and cheese tasting, crafting, etc. What would YOU plan?

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I care enough to make sure you don’t miss out on anything I posted earlier this week. Obviously you have a good excuse for why you didn’t read. I forgive you. And I update you:

What, you too? I thought I was the only one.

#5Faves: Glitter Finds

 

 

 

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a little self-ay action at the very first SE MI BIS brunch LOL OMg FYI

a little self-ay action at the very first SE MI BIS brunch LOL OMg FYI

sometimes you burn dinner and just order Chinese at watch Chuggington on the floor

sometimes you burn dinner and just order Chinese at watch Chuggington on the floor

National Breastfeeding Week is all over, but the nursing never ends.

National Breastfeeding Week is all over, but the nursing never ends.

my sick pickle - all better this week

my sick pickle – all better this week

 

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I’m not the only bard in this neck of the Internet. Check out some gems that I didn’t Mark as Read before even getting to. In fact, I saved them to savor later. So, are they good? I don’t know. Let’s find out together:

Every Story Has a Bellybutton

Enduring vs. Enjoying the Journey

How I Keep Laundry from Overtaking My Life

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Reading: Faith Beginnings

Eating: eating up the lasts of the year’s watermelon

Listening: Sam screaming from his room bc naps suck!!!

Wearing: these

Praying: for sisterhood everywhere

 

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#5Faves: Glitter Finds

I was at a loss for what to fave about this week. Then I was like, “glitter always works.” So, while I don’t have my hands on any of these items at the moment, you can send me an email requesting my address. I will gladly accept them as gifts. wink.

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If you don’t want to eat breakfast at this every morning, you’re a big fat liar.

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I don’t care what you say: I still like feathers.

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Can I get this in my size? No. Seriously.

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Not exactly sure where I’d wear this, but you can bet I’d find a dozen occasions right quick – like laundry time or breakfast.

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How freaking fancy is this?

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What, you too? I thought I was the only one.

I’m going to attempt to do a little reflecting on this past Saturday’s Blessed Is She Southeast Michigan brunch…while all three kids are awake…at 7am. You’re in for a treat.

First off, Mary was on point and on fleek and super swag with her talk, per usual. The topic was sisterhood, and the takeaway was that in order to foster genuine sisterhood, we need healthy doses of honesty, affirmation and prayer.

It’s easy to talk about fashion, makeup and dinner recipes, but how do you get to a place where you’re comfortable baring your soul to another person? In order to make genuine friends, we’re all going to have to go a bit deeper with honesty, affirmation and prayer.

3 Things You Need to Make Friends as a Woman

Honesty

How can we get to a point in our relationships with other women where we can say, “What? You too? I thought I was the only one!” if we are not honest about the fact that we sit our 5-month-old in front of the TV so we can catch the tiniest of breaks? Or that we are unhappy in our profession? Or that our marriage is struggling?

Affirmation

And when another mom bares her guilt-soaked soul to us, how do we respond? Do we automatically tell her, “Oh, it’s fine” and change the subject? Or, do we listen to what she is saying? Are we in turn honest in letting her know she is not alone? Even if we disagree with what she tells us, are we sympathetic to her emotions and helpful to her by steering her in the direction she needs? Easier said than done, amiright?

Prayer

After the honesty and affirmation parade, we need to follow up with some good old-fashioned prayer. None of this, “I will pray for you” and then not doing it crap. Pray for your sister. Pray over your sister. Yes. Right in front of her.

Making Friends as a Grown Up

What is it about being an adult that makes making friends so incredibly difficult? I could list off reasons, but we all have our own.

And, you’d think it would be simple: we are all looking for deeper relationships with other women, so, let’s just do it. But you can’t force that, right?

So what is it that brings people closer together?

I once knew a singer and a soldier who said sins create the closest bonds. But, since we’re Catholic in this neck of the woods, let’s see if we can avoid the sisterly trip to the confessional.

That means we’re back to the honesty, affirmation, prayer method. And, I don’t know about you, but when someone asks me how I’m doing, my reflexive response is, “Great!” even when it’s not. No one wants to be the Debbie D. friend. It’s much easier to pretend like the messy stuff doesn’t bother us, or even easier: just put the highlight reel out there.

Or what about when someone does drop a truth bomb on us? Easiest way out? Smile, say it’s ok, change the subject. AVOID ALL THE CONTROVERSY AND UNCOMFORTABLE.

Then I need to pray over this person? Talk about awkward. Don’t I need to be close to that person already to do that?

Making It Work

Those are all of my excuses for why I can’t make those hard things work. I guess I’m being…honest. Easier online, eh?

Now how do I get past those things and into the friend-zone? How do I drop my guard? How do I make one of those friends that you can sit with in totally comfortable silence?

I don’t know.

The best I can come up with right now is to take a deep breath when you’re with a friend. Inhale, exhale and tell yourself to be calm and listen. Stay in the moment and don’t try to get rid of the uncomfortable.

That’s all I’ve got. What do you have?

 

7QT: email me if you want her

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Mike and I did one more art festival this past weekend along with my BIL and SIL. With six kids six and under. I’ll save you all of the details and instead just tell you what my kids ate: three bags of chips, a honey stick, Superman ice cream, and a hot dog.

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I care enough to make sure you don’t miss out on anything I posted earlier this week. Obviously you have a good excuse for why you didn’t read. I forgive you. And I update you:

#5Faves: Tattoo Ideas

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monkey see, monkey boob

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the trash elephant (actually, it's pretty BA in person)

the trash elephant (actually, it’s pretty BA in person)

looking to unload this beauty. very excellent condition. retails $348, I think? selling for $50 + shipping. email me if you want her.

looking to unload this beauty. very excellent condition. retails $348, I think? selling for $50 + shipping. email me if you want her.

also unloading: $10 + shipping

also unloading: $10 + shipping

 

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I’m not the only bard in this neck of the Internet. Check out some gems that I didn’t Mark as Read before even getting to. In fact, I saved them to savor later. So, are they good? I don’t know. Let’s find out together:

I Need a Harper Lee Support Group

Be Still, and Know

Summer of Psalms

 

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with Joyful Life

Reading: The Backyard Homestead

Eating: my SIL made these and they are…ughhhhh so good.

Listening: earlier in the week, we heard a clap of thunder so loud it woke every member of the family and shook the freaking walls. so.cool.

Wearing: shaved my legs, so…jorts.

Praying: that I can be satisfied in what I am doing with my life

 

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#5Faves: Tattoo Ideas

For years I’ve preached that not having a tattoo is the new tattoo. And now I want one. I chalk it up to the fact that despite the revolving baby door and all of the excitement (currently thinking of a new word…) that comes with, life has pretty much been the same for five years.

Well-before getting married, it was all: next grade, new school, new classes, next trip, new job, next next next. And, I loved the change. It’s why I am always creating something new. Always taking on a new project. Never satisfied.

I’d say there is some merit to that. There are also some pitfalls (overcommit much?) And it makes a b s o l u t e l y no sense that I would consider something so permanent. But, I mean, I got married and had kids, right? I’m clearly capable of big-time big-girl stuff.

What you’re witnessing here is my inner dialogue. I apologize.

Here’s all you need to know:

  • there’s a good chance I’m gonna ink myself
  • I have a design and an artist picked out
  • it will include lavender, text, watercoloring
  • Mike is campaigning for me to go with a half sleeve
  • actually, there’s a good chance I will chicken out

And while I won’t be branding myself with all of these, here are 5 of my favorite tattoo design ideas:

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floral

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watercolors

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geometric

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Dia de los Muertos

Tell me now: do you have one? What is it? Why did you get it? Are you afraid of the commitment like el mio?

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