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Adult ADHD is always a challenge
My name is CeeLee. I have adult ADHD which can make life interesting at my house. I battle with circumstances and situations that a non-ADHD parent probably wouldn’t even consider as so much as a blip on the radar. I’m guilty of many things, but I doubt having a dull household will ever be on the list.
” Mom! I hate homework! “
The battle I have most week days, is to convince my son that homework is necessary and even vital, to his learning. My son heartily disagrees, preferring to glean his knowledge from bashing the goombas on Mario Bros. He’s 9. His logic is that if he “able to effectively problem solve the level he is at right now on his game, then that should count towards his education“. Did I mention that he is going to grow up to either be a defense attorney (he can argue anything into submission) or a used car salesman, what with his overflowing charm and the batting his mile long eye lashes that he sure didn’t inherit from me.
Getting them to do homework isn’t easy
These homework battles can range anywhere from an hour to 3, depending on the objections, stalling, pleading and/or begging. I eliminate the factors for procrastination.When we come through the door, he is allowed to run off his pent up energy for 20 minutes, while I mentally gather myself to stave off the possible battle to come. After he has run off some of the wiggles, next comes the snack. I make sure his brain is fed before we start, as his being hungry can be a distraction and is always used as an excuse.
3 ways to get it done now
1. Sound effects as a reward
I sit with him so that he doesn’t find other more fun things to do. For every answer that he gets right, he gets to play a sound effect from my cell. Remember, he is a boy and so I’m positive you can surmise the type of sound effects he might choose to play.
2. We do the homework in 30 minute time blocks.
He doesn’t have a large amount of homework to be done normally. I divide the work up in 30 minute increments and then a 10 minute break to get up and move around before we tackle the next task. Everyone needs a break and his focus is better for it.
3. Apply a bait and switch
For really bad days when he just doesn’t want to do it, offer a fate that’s worse than homework. For us, that would be for me to sing to him. I may be gifted in some areas of life, but American Idol I shall never be. Or suggest a room cleaning expedition, a trip to the grocery, anything that the kiddo hates worse than homework. After those suggestions, they may be only too happy to get the lesser of 2 evils done and thank you afterwards.